I’m a Muslim.. and I’m gay. (Part 3)

Khairul, I’d like to applaud you on the acoustic versions of Collide and You And Me. Sedap sedap! Ok now, to your questions, sir.

But when you say being gay is a “lifestyle”, do you mean that it is associated with gender as well? I feel like it’s a grey area, so how would you define it?

Looking into an online dictionary, “lifestyle” means the typical way of life of an individual, group, or culture. As a gay guy, I would say that I am a girl trapped in a man’s body (right gerls?). And as “girls”, we do what we do best! If girls play dress up, act like little princesses or divas, pretend like no one else existed in this world but them, gay guys do too. We call it “queening around”.

Next on the “What We Do Best” list is, of course SHOPPING. You know who a girl would most want to have as a shopping companion? Gay guys. Not their boyfriends.

And then there’s this industry called the fashion. Males who truely exploited in this industry are again the gay guys.

There many other things that could be described as the lifestyle of gay guys. But the thing that differentiate a gay guy and a Muslim gay guy, is his sex life. I’m not representing all my Muslim sisters, because they might have their own interpretation of a gay Muslim. I really control my desires for men (haha! can’t believe I’m saying this. So scandalous!). Allah prohibits Mankind from zina, premarital sex. Sexual intercourse between two men is also zina, as described by Jumhur Ulamaa’. The practice of zina should never be condoned.

“Do not come near Zina, for it is a shameful deed and an evil path.” Israa’ ayat 32.

Guess that answers another question from you:

If girl+guy can get cosy, make out and such which is by right sinful in Islam, why do majority of people tend to ignore/take lightly this problem? Why would it be any different for gays then? I guess it is each’s own “jihad” to fight.

 

Why do Muslims say being gay is sinful? Was it written in the Quran so? If it is, then wouldn’t it be the teachings of Allah to avoid being gay?

 

“We also sent Lut : He said to his people : “Do ye commit lewdness such as no people in creation (ever) committed before you? For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women: ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds.” Al-A’raaf ayat 80-81.

“Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders..” Corinthians verse 9.

 

It is not only in Islam, Christianity too does not condone homosexuality acts as said above. It is said in a hadith that, when a man mounts another man, the throne of Allah shakes.

Hmm, ok somehow you’ve cornered me with this question, Khairul. Haha! But I shall not falter. Here is my answer. What is sinful is the preference of man over woman in SEX. You see the Quran verse I highlighted above? But acting gay is what I say a “creation of God”. Remember my first post?

Phew, I tackled that question safely. Expert at killing two birds with one stone, I believe I have also answered your question: Being one would defy his “orders”, and if we defy his “larangans”, how do we expect to be forgiven? Adam defied His orders, and look what happened to us; stripped of our essence. What is your take on this?

But dear Khairul, while everyone knows Adam and Eve defied His order, we also know that they were both pardoned.

رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنْفُسَنَا وَإِنْ لَمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِين

This is the doa that they used to beg upon Allah, and this is also the doa we should practise.

I was thinking that the “jihad” is actually the battle between realising you’re gay, and emerging out of that phase (ending the phase). Maybe it’s a test for you and the others out there like you. What do you think?

 

Darling, jihad does not end after a gay guy turns straight. Na ah! Like I said in my earlier posts, jihad nafsu is for everyone. So you think after turning straight, a guy has got no more nafsu, is it?

 

To those who wonder why I am still blabbering around this topic, well, I am not only answering questions from Khairul but also hoping that, by reading these posts, those who are in a dilemma could get a hold of themselves easily. Why choose between being gay and Muslim, when you can be both?

 

That is all I have to say. Again, I am not preaching.

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