You’re right to say no one was born gay. God didn’t make anyone gay. I’m not very well-versed with Islam ah, or in fact any other religions, but I think God is an idealist. He essentially created space for only two genders, male and female.

I understand your point that being gay is simply a sexual orientation. And I’m impressed you’re doing your very best to stay true to Allah. But when you say being gay is a “lifestyle”, do you mean that it is associated with gender as well? I feel like it’s a grey area, so how would you define it?

Why do Muslims say being gay is sinful? Was it written in the Quran so? If it is, then wouldn’t it be the teachings of Allah to avoid being gay? I mean being straight is already pretty much sinful, and in religious terms, being gay would be doubly hard and sinful. Being one would defy his “orders”, and if we defy his “larangans”, how do we expect to be forgiven? Adam defied His orders, and look what happened to us; stripped of our essence. What is your take on this?

I was thinking that the “jihad” is actually the battle between realising you’re gay, and emerging out of that phase (ending the phase). Maybe it’s a test for you and the others out there like you. What do you think?

And yeah, I agree with you on: If girl+guy can get cosy, make out and such which is by right sinful in Islam, why do majority of people tend to ignore/take lightly this problem? Why would it be any different for gays then? I guess it is each’s own “jihad” to fight.

I kinda understand what you’re driving at, and what your take is on this topic. But I’d still like to tie a few loose ends as posed above Sorry to take up your time ah. I think it’s important to understand the people around us.